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Smart Skills for a Confident New Year

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Smart Skills for a Confident New Year

Oprah, has a great interview on her podcast with Elizabeth Gilbert, who wrote, Eat Pray Love, a book that spent almost four years on the New York Times Best Seller list! During their conversation Elizabeth says, “New Year’s Day is my favorite day of the year, because no matter how much you messed up the year before, they give you a brand new one, with no dings, no spills, no miles on it!” She laughs when she talks to the invisible “committee” saying, “I can’t believe you all are giving me another year. Didn’t you see what I did with the last...

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Are You a Hugger?

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Are You a Hugger?

One of the hallmarks of confidence is introducing yourself with impact which, in the United States, traditionally means, looking someone in the eye, shaking their hand firmly, and using your first and last name. But do you ever get a hug instead? And, think, “That was awkward.” The reality is, that “awkward moment,” actually becomes a memory with a lasting impact, because your greetings and goodbyes are part of your professional presence and they can influence how other people feel about you.  Also, in a world that’s increasingly casual and...

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Best Business Advice I Ever Got

Posted by on 12:25 am in Business, Confidence Tips | 0 comments

In the month of November, in the United States, we celebrate Thanksgiving. It’s my favorite national holiday because it’s simply about being grateful. In that spirit, I’m giving thanks and sharing “the best business advice I ever got” because it can open doors and spark new relationships in your career and life. When I was moving along in my TV news career, I was looking for a reporter’s job in New England and interviewed at WFSB in Hartford, Connecticut. The News Director was Dick Ahles. He’d developed a solid newsroom with a talented team....

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How Do You Deliver Bad News?

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How Do You Deliver Bad News?

There isn’t a person in business (or life) who hasn’t had to be the “bearer of bad tidings.” But, we avoid it. Instead, we dance around an issue and hope the “bad news,” will deliver itself. It won’t. When I was a TV news reporter, I applied for a job at WTNH in New Haven, CT. After the News Director looked at my demo reel, he said, “Actually, you’re too experienced for us.” What? Too experienced?” If I had the confidence then, I would have told him, “Tell me you don’t like the way I write, or my reporting style, or how I look, but don’t tell...

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Are You Civilized?

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Are You Civilized?

In a divided country and increasingly cruel and crass world, civility is needed more than ever. Families are splitting apart over politics. Students are disrespectful of their teachers. Business “professionals” hurl insults on social media. People don’t even look at each other when they pass by. And, even if they do, they can’t hear you say, “Good morning,” because they’re wearing earbuds. In the midst of the noise and chaos, there were two major U.S. events in August that brought people together: the total solar eclipse and Hurricane...

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Confidence: Step by Step

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Confidence: Step by Step

This summer, I walked 275 miles, halfway across northern Spain, along the Camino de Santiago. Before we left for the Pilgrimage, my husband, Henry, and I emailed our family and friends: “We would love to carry your prayer requests with us. If you are interested, please send us your list and we will offer up your requests as we walk along ‘The Way.'” What we received added up to a 6-page, double-sided,10 point font, Excel spreadsheet! Then, I added my own prayers and goals. 1. Lose judgment 2. Lose weight 3. Lose the worry...

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Do You Talk Too Much?

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Do You Talk Too Much?

Do you ever wonder if you talk too much? If so, don’t count on people to let you know. They don’t want to hurt your feelings or be confrontational. Instead, their body language will tell you. Their eyes will glaze-over, they’ll check their phone, yawn, or offer a flimsy exit line, then head for the bathroom or bar. Are they being rude, selfish, or impatient? Maybe, but it’s tough for people to break away if you’re dominating the conversation. So, if you’re wondering if you talk too much, congratulations for being curious about a blind...

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I Have Unfortunate News for You…

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I Have Unfortunate News for You…

“My boss called. ‘I have unfortunate news for you. We’re letting you go.’ He kept talking, but I didn’t hear a word he said. In an instant, my identity as a mortgage executive was gone. In 26 years, I never had to look for a job. I had always been recruited away. It felt like I was swimming alone in an ocean, asking, “Who am I?” That’s how Bronwyn Morrissey described her feelings after getting fired. She was devastated and confused. Who wouldn’t be? Maureen Chiquet felt the same way. She was Chief Executive of Chanel before she was abruptly...

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How Your Voice Sounds to Others

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How Your Voice Sounds to Others

Jerry Seinfeld jokes that “Speaking in front of a crowd is considered the # 1 fear of most people. Number two is death. Death! This means to the average person, if you have to be at a funeral, you’d rather be in the casket than doing the eulogy!” “Funny and true,” laughs, Linda Brice who is an international voice coach. She says that singing and public speaking elicit primal fear because we are terrified of being shamed, humiliated, or banished from our group at work, at home, or in our communities. This is why our voices can get creaky and...

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The Pain & Pleasure of Promoting Yourself

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The Pain & Pleasure of Promoting Yourself

Imagine you’re a hot shot professional ready to advance your career. You’ve won awards for your competence. You’ve been promoted and received bonuses for your extraordinary work. But as you work to climb the ladder, you discover that despite your success, you don’t feel confident in the interview process. Competent, yes. Confident, no. A Hewlett Packard internal report, which has been widely quoted, states that men will apply for a job if they have 60% of the qualifications for the position. Women only apply if they...

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